Making friend is not pretty much difficult or challenging, yet it is quite easy. In one way, making friends is truly something of which we are in need due to the fact that we cannot live our life with isolation. However, effectively making friends is not that easy if compared to making friends. The term “Effectively” is a little critical. Just imagine that you go to school, and you made quite a lot of friends, but those friends are not something you really want in life. I mean at times you want a friend with whom you can share concern or secrecy without worrying and so forth; yet, you cannot pursue that dream and goal. How sad you are. To be honest, with respect to the books which I have read, to make friends effectively, people should first possess the quality of habits or traits as fellow.
First of all, give the honesty appreciation to people around. Honestly speaking, no one wants criticizing, condemning, or blaming for their actions. On the contrary, they need to be told that they are either right or not when they do stuffs or something. Let me raise a very conventional example. When you take the exam, then you flunk it, and you are blamed for that. How do you feel? I am sure that you are about to have a feeling of little depression, discouragement, or something like that. Therefore, your friends are the same thing. For instance, you blame your peers or acquaintances for something which you order them to do; nevertheless, your consequences are not what was intended. I know this feeling. You will feel disappointed, but the thing is you have to stand every situations. If you are angry at your friends, they will feel very uncomfortable, and your friendship is supposed to be broken up. Undeniably, you had better put up with people around and acclaim them for what they do and the outcome they achieve.
Furthermore, be sociable. Socializing with people is very important since you will be quite easy in locating friends and befriending with them. Based on my experience, most people want to have a kind of friend who is very sociable thanks to the fact that they suppose they can sometimes be emotionally or physically entertained when they are upset or saddened.
Additionally, do not be conceited. Conceitedness is a gateway directing you to fall in the trap. It does not cost you anything. It does not benefit you. It does not look appropriate, yet it does look very fed-up by people around. Totally, swelling with pride too much does not give you the feeling of secure. Imagine that you have a fancy car, and you show it off to people around. Does it look awesome? No! You will be immediately judged by those people that you are so proud of yourself. Remember that if you are rich, you will see someone richer than you. You are not Bill Gate LOL.
Moreover, be polite. Some people can make an effective friend by just articulating their politeness and honesty. For example, when you talk with someone with soft words or politeness, the one to whom you talk will tend to feel very comfortable and cozy. Besides, you will be right away judged. In this way, it does not require you pay money, right? And it is really easy to apply into your action.
More significantly, be tactful. It is far sure that people need to be helpful or tactful. People are human beings, not god. Thus, you are supposed to be faced with problems or something. If you are born into this world, it means that you have to encounter the problems. Occasionally, some problems cannot be copped by yourself alone. You need to have one or more advisers or friends so that you are able to effectively tackle those problems. For example, you alone go into the thick forest, and you get lost, then you meet one person, your acquaintances, there. The question is that “Would you ask that person for help or direction?” You might say “YES” because provided that you do not ask, you will never be able to find out the right direction toward your destination. Just visualize the real picture in your mind about this situation. With no doubt, if that person does not tell you anything or the right direction, you will remember that person in the wrong way, and you will feel disconnected with each other, but if he or she tells you, you will remember him or her in the right way, and your friendship is going to be stronger and stronger.
In addition, remember your friends’ name. Making friends requires something special. So, remembering your peers’ name is also of importance. Let me approach you a question, in case you are with your friends together for years, and you go on a date with them and have a talk, but they do not remember your name. How you feel with that? You might say your friends do not give you the feeling of importance. With no doubt that your friendship which was built for a long time ago is going to be diminished or won out; however, if they remember your name clearly, it is 100 percent sure that you tend to feel cozy and comfortable about your talk.
More importantly, be open-minded. Open-mindedness is an open door to attract many friends whom you want in life. Most people these days are very curious about everything happening in this world. But some might not be interested in knowing everything new and productive to their life. In other words, they want to know only what they want to not any else. This bad trait not only makes yourself limited with the knowledge, but also the friends as well. Imagine how bad it sounds. We are born to have friends around, so heartedly serve this purpose and get along well with people around. Do not be afraid to be nurtured with knowledge. Go and talk with people and take significant knowledge seriously and not significant for granted. Just be open-minded, you benefit much from surroundings.
The last powerful point is that you have to talk less and listen more. Some people are much into talking rather than listening. This very point is capable of making your partners feel very uncomfortable. If possible, avoid it. Personally, I tend to have a feeling of disrespect as someone with whom I talk does not pay attention to me and interrupt or interfere with my conversation. I hope people have this feeling in common, so do you.
To make it short, effectively making friends is not of difficulty if you put all the aforementioned key points above into practice.